Jennifer Lawrence is amazing. The X-Men star was promoting her new movie mother! on Late Night with Seth Meyers. In the process of discussing the movie, she discusses how she got into a ‘bar fight’ with a fan that asked for a selfie and somehow thought it was funny.
Watch the clip below (start at the 2:30 mark).
Let’s break down what is so wrong about this:
- Jennifer, if this is your version of events, it’s safe to ask that just because the guy said “f**k you”, what right did that give you to assault him? Let’s pay attention to what she said: ” Something in me snapped and it couldn’t have been the alcohol.” Then she grabbed him and doused him and his belonging by pouring beer all over them.
- Jennifer, you DO realize that you just admitted to assaulting someone on television right? I mean come on now, if this guy decided to take legal action, you gave him all the ammo he needs.
- I am trying to really understand what’s so ‘cute’ about telling this story and it comes off as ‘ok’? Also, Seth you lose cool points by saying ‘serves him right’. Let’s be real people…if it had been a man doing this to a woman, there would be no end to some of the coverage this would have gotten. Quite frankly, if a male celebrity had done this to a woman, I hope that he would have been held to a high legal standard.
Don’t get me wrong, the fan was rude in cursing at her for saying no, but they were just words. All she had to do was walk away. To go after a stranger in a foreign country not knowing what he may have been carrying a weapon or if he had other friends is asking for trouble. It’s fortunate that nothing worse happened. Many of us have met a celebrity and asked for a photo and they said no, we have respected that. At the same time as well, many of us have learned to gauge the mood and situation before asking for the picture. Sometimes, it’s just as well to sit back and get a picture from a distance and keep it moving. Being rude and disrespectful is the quickest way to make things go sour, but no one should have to worry about being assaulted; in some cases though, you reap what you sow.
On the flip side of things, some of this still goes back to the celebs (and their handlers) themselves and how they are in public. You can only expect some modicum of privacy when you are out in public spaces. In a day and age when cameras are everywhere, fans love to have indisputable, visual proof that they met someone famous and this is even more than wanting or getting autographs. In the time it took for her to relate her ‘bar fight’ story to Seth, it would have taken much less time for Jennifer to take the picture. Even if the answer was no, the moment the fan got belligerent, one of her friends or handlers should have stepped in and diffused the situation. Sure, we were not there and we are only getting her side of the story, but she chose to tell it and the picture that it paints is that she doesn’t have friends who would look out for her, nor does she have discretion in when and where stories like these should be told.
If nothing else, a story like this is something that you tell to your friends in private. People who are your fans don’t need to hear stories like these which taints your image. Jennifer, maybe you forgot, you DO have an image to uphold. Sure, we understand that we are all human, we make mistakes and bad decisions, but bragging about getting INTO a fight holds a different look than it does if you were preventing one. Even the age old cliche’ of ‘think of the children’ plays here. When you hold some kind of celebrity status, people look at you to inspire and when you tarnish that image, it’s really hard to get fans back on your side. People will always remember that one bad incident over 10 good ones.
Biggest point of all is when one celeb does it, how does it look for everyone else? Many fans have accounts of celebrities that they have met who they got negative reactions to when asking for a picture or autographs. When that story gets passed along, similar to the ‘telephone game’, by the time it reaches the end of the line it’s been blown out of proportion. If as a celebrity, you want to keep some modicum of goodwill with fans, treat them with respect even if they don’t. Nothing is gained by doing something so boneheaded such as starting a fight because of words. Even if you feel like you are about to do something that you are about to regret, let your friends step in to diffuse the situation and that’s even if you have friends that have the character to do so because Jennifer…your story ain’t cute.